Why Optimists Can Achieve More

Last week we worked with the timeline. This week we will analyze it for a last time. Take a few minutes and take in your timeline. How does it feel? Can you some unexpected coincidences? Now, ask the following questions: What had changed at the time you have a low and high mark respectively? Did…
Another way of reconnecting to yourself and find your inner motivation and drive is adding activities that you miss or are interested in. Our own stories about ourselves are a part of self-esteem/self-worth. These stories are partly constructed by what we cherish and do with our time. Research has shown that when you validate yourself,…
Here, the post “Increase self-esteem by lessening shame using self-compassion” continues with how you can increase your self-esteem by understanding your feelings. Increase self-esteem by lessening shame using self-compassion: This post continues with how to manage disproportionate and painful shame. One of the treatment methods for painful shame is Compassion Focused Therapy developed by…
This post “Increase your self-esteem by debating with your inner critic” continues with how you can increase your self-esteem by listening to your feelings and heal self-destructive shame. Increase your self-esteem by debating with your inner critic: One way of reducing self-critical shame is to become more self-compassionate. An exercise that can help you…
Last week we started with the life wheel, an illustrative tool used in coaching to identify the areas in your life you would like to change, your dimensions, as well as a list of 10 possible dimensions you could consider to be drawn on a dartboard-like illustration with 10 circle areas, see illustration. The scale…
Earlier posts have been about how the interaction between a child and caretakers creates internal models for relationships that tend to be repeated in other close relationships and also colors the child’s basic attitude to others and also to self. This happens because the internal models develop into generalized expectations of how the child will…